Many people assume counselling is the time and place where you talk a lot and the counsellor listens a lot. This is correct. People who are comfortable in talking will dive in and want to get to the issue straight away. For other people who feel “talking” is not in their nature, the conversations can start wherever they want to start and do not necessarily need to be directly about a specific issue. It is the space for you to reflect on your life in a way that is comfortable and helpful for you. It is a space for you to express freely on your terms what has been on your mind in a confidential environment without the fear of being judged or being told what you need to do.
Counselling can be misconceived to be a session where the counsellor offers a solution or advice after the client explains the issue. Whilst this may sound helpful and attractive, many counsellors (including Keiko) believe this is not the best way of helping. We come from different backgrounds, hold different values/beliefs and have been through different experiences that makes you uniquely who you are. The solution or direction that you end up discovering yourself is always going to be most fitting and most powerful. Sometimes, you don’t need a solution or a clear direction. Instead you just want a time-out from your day to day life to just pause and reflect.
Counselling is a process where the counsellor engages with you in a way that will prompt you to find what you are seeking. In order to do this, Keiko will reflect back to you what you have expressed (oddly enough this is often surprisingly refreshing and revealing) so you may re-examine what is happening in your life and possibly see things in a different light. The talking process often brings into focus the factor that has been most confusing or disturbing. This process also often times reveals what is getting in the way of you being able to get to where you want to be. Keiko may also ask questions or feed back some observations from a psychological point of view to prompt you to think a little bit deeper than what you would have on your own. Through these sessions, clients will often find the inner self they never knew existed and with insight, find a renewed sense of control and direction.
what is psychotherapy?
Although Counselling and Psychotherapy are acknowledged in the industry to overlap considerably, the two terms are often used to distinguish difference of the focus of the sessions. Counselling is a term commonly used for sessions for clients wanting to overcome or resolve a specific issue. Psychotherapy is commonly used to describe the process of exploring the patterns in the client’s life that may have been repeated which may have contributed to feeling lost, confused or depressed in similar ways. Often times, clients come for counselling and after several sessions, end up discovering that they have actually felt the same way in the past in a different context and gradually the sessions begin to be more psychotherapy. But there is no definite line of where counselling ends and psychotherapy starts. Also, whilst both counselling or psychotherapy can be a deep emotional process. it is perfectly OK to stop at any point where you feel it’s enough, or it begins to be too much. How far or how deep you want to go is entirely up to you and your boundaries will always be respected in every session. Also, the way that Keiko would engage with you is fundamentally the same with counselling and psychotherapy. The fees are also the same. If you like, you can specify that you are interested in counselling or psychotherapy, or if you’re not sure how you will go (which is usually the case), it may be easier to just ask for “a session”.