Keiko has the experience working with people who suffer from clinical depression as well as addictions. Keiko also has extensive experience and the skills to work with people for whatever reason are just feeling confused, lost, depressed or stressed. The issue may be relationship issues, career or work issues, conflict, confidence, self image, grief or just finding yourself in a less happier place. There used to be a stigma in our society that considers counselling/psychotherapy to be for people who are “sick” or “weak”. That is no longer the case! People come in to talk about their frustrating in-laws, the colleague at work that drives them crazy, the argument they had with their partner… Anything that you feel could use a good “talk”, give it a try!
Living with anger
Keiko has a particular interest in working with people experiencing anger. Often times in society, empathy is given to the person (or persons) that the anger is targeted towards and the person expressing the anger is dismissed or even avoided. It is telling that the term “anger management” is used widely in our society, suggesting that anger is a undesirable emotion that should be managed or suppressed. Keiko has a different approach. Keiko believes anger should first be embraced and explored. Nobody chooses to be angry; there is always a reason, and the reason is always a valid one. However, although the reason to be angry is valid and completely appropriate, expressing those thoughts in an angry way often lead to negative affects on relationships, employment and overall wellbeing. It is also not uncommon that behaving in an angry way is not in line with who they see themselves to be. If this sounds familiar, you will have the chance with Keiko to understand that voice within and explore how to express your voice in a way that reflects who you are and how you want to be received by the people around you.
Counselling/Psychotherapy for teenagers
Keiko also has a passion with working with young people. The adolescent stage is a tough one, and many young people find it hard to navigate their way through the expectations of school, peers, family and society in general. It is also a critical point in their life where they begin to search for their identity and their place in the world. During this period of change, it is also natural for parents/caregivers to begin to feel concerned especially when the teenager in their home begins to appear sad, angry or lost. Considering it is also the period in their lives where independence becomes important, it is not uncommon that communicating with the teenager becomes more and more difficult. Parents and caregivers often say while their concern for the teenager continues to grow, it is extremely hard to determine when and how to intervene. Does this sound familiar?
Keiko will engage with the young person to allow them to express and examine their lives in a supportive empathetic space. Often times, teenagers are not comfortable just talking, so the sessions may incorporate activities such as playing games on a tablet, listening to music together or using art depending on what the teenager feels comfortable with.
During the session with your son/daughter, Keiko feels it is important and effective to maintain a neutral position and refrain from trying to fix, educate, lecture or convince your son/daughter to adopt a particular direction. The sessions will be about prompting your son/daughter to reflect on how they see their lives, what changes they want to see and how to make those changes happen. We may also examine whether the choices and actions they are taking reflect how they see themselves and who they want to be. Through working with Keiko, many teenagers have made subtle or significant changes gradually over time and have been able to find a place of emotional security and a sense of direction. Often times this enables them to be more open in how they communicate with the people around them.
When the teenager doesn’t want to come
Teenagers are already surrounded by adults in their lives including family members and the faculty at their school and it is common and understandable that they are not interested in talking to yet another adult. It may help to explain that the Keiko will not try to tell them what to do or what not to do. It is just time and space to think and reflect. It may help to negotiate that if they go once and don’t like it, you won’t make them go back. This will offer them a sense of control. But, in the end, if your son/daughter resists, it is not a good idea to force them. Instead, if you are feeling concerned about your child, it may be valuable for you to come in for some sessions. It may be helpful to have a time-out and use the sessions to reflect on your concerns.
Sessions are available in English or Japanese